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Master Facilitator Journal | February 20, 2018

Dear Friends,

In light of our challenged attention spans, I'm adopting a new approach.
I'm promising to keep articles under 250 words from now on. I'll link to more details on my blog if I absolutely feel I need to elaborate further on a topic, which is very likely.

Today's article, Make a Connection, is about connecting to others, commonly known as "relating" to others as a facilitative leader. With so many of our relationships reduced to rapid, often "virtual" interactions, I believe most of us are starving to actually make connections with others. This is evidenced in studies indicating that loneliness may be the next biggest public health issue on par with obesity and substance abuse.

One of the greatest gifts of the Journey of Facilitation and Collaboration course is that we get to connect with each other and build substantial relationships with professionals who share our passion for facilitative leadership for 5 whole days! Come join us as we still have space left in our April & June classes!

We hope our work continues to bring inspiration to your world. Thank you for being a part of our growing community. Please continue to send the wonderful feedback.


Steve Davis

Founder, FacilitatorU.com

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The Point

Make a Connection

Connecting with yourself and others builds the ground for collaboration.

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I view human connection as the emotional connection upon which trust is built. In all human affairs, these relationships either enable things to work or cause them to fall apart. All else is secondary.

To create connection with others, be connected with yourself:

  • Be honest with yourself. Meaning that you actually do what you tell others is important.

  • Be present to yourself. Meaning that you feel your body and what's going on right in front of you. You aren't stuffing your face with coffee and donuts while you think about the past or the future.
You are honest and present to others.
  • Be authentic, even if it hurts. Being real will feel unnatural at first. This is because we've all been conditioned to be something we aren't...to look and act a certain way. This is a lie to ourselves and others and makes you sick over time. Authenticity is rare and very attractive. People of character yearn to connect with those who are connected to themselves!

  • Do what you say you will do. This is so easy and so rare that it really stands out! Don't make promises you won't fulfill. Even the little things like, "I'll call you tomorrow." Take your promises seriously. To do otherwise erodes the fabric of your soul and other's trust. When you break a commitment, you're not a bad person. Go fix it and move on!

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